Saturday, June 27, 2015

Mia's last day of Daycare...


This is an absolutely crazy time of year.  Between Rob’s end of school wrap up, the finalization and planning of summer camps/trips/nanny schedules, the year end festivities, BBQs and celebrations for both kids and an unanticipated surge in the number of palliative patients on my caseload, we have been moving at warp speed on a daily basis.

I often think of that scene from Spaceballs when they turn the velocity of the ship to LUDICROUS speed and, with the sudden acceleration making his face gaunt with disfigurmenet he says,  “BUT WE CANT TURN IT UP!!! WE’RE GOING TOO FAST!!!”

Too late.  I hear you, Spaceballs.  We’re going too fast.

Amidst the rush and micromanagement of various “to-do” lists, it suddenly fell on my plate to take Mia to daycare today.  And as we were packing up to go I somehow remembered that today was her last day of daycare.  For the summer…and…oh wait a second…for LIFE.

I paused – just for a split second – to let this sink in. 

Hmmm…

And then the dog barfed and the toothpaste fell on the floor and Toby couldn’t get his sunscreen cap off and WE WERE GOING TO MISS THE BUS and the moment was gone.

Of COURSE, of all mornings, there was crazy construction on the way to daycare.  We were late, but I still somehow remembered to bring in Mia’s hand made card and give it to her daycare teacher and before I knew it, she was with her group, about to go outside.  One last time.

I was rushed back out the door as an excited group of 2 year olds crowded the front hall to put their outdoor shoes on.  But as I ran down the path back to my car I felt time grind to an unexpected halt.

I turned.

And I looked at the door that had just shut behind me.

That door.

It seemed like yesterday and forever ago that I first opened that door, innocently and nervously dropping off my golden haired little 15 month old boy at his very first day of daycare.

And today, for the last time, I am leaving my grown up 4 year old baby girl.

There was no great ceremony to mark the end of Mia’s daycare life.  There was no hoopla for us, as a family, even though we have spent 6 years opening and closing that door to this wonderfully secure place that has nurtured our children through our most trying of days.

I supposed in life this is often how it goes; unceremoniously, the doors before us and behind us open and close.  We wander in, wander through and wander past, not always knowing which doors are significant.  My only hope is that life continues to bring me more times to pause and reflect and be thankful as one door closes and another opens.  It was but a small moment in my day today, but that brief opportunity to disembark from the lightening fast speed train of life to spend a moment in quiet reflection aligned everything back into perspective. 

Thank you, Duntroon, for nurturing my children in their early years.  For preparing them for kindergarten in ways we as parents cannot.  For creating some regularity and consistency in their lives.  For forcing me to delve deep into my inner often untapped soul of creativity each year for that damn Trike-a-thon. For letting us come early and late and somewhere inbetween.  And for loving our children.  Thank you for playing such an important part of their journey.
Toby Henry, on his First day at Duntroon Daycare, Sept 2009, age 1.5
Mia Henry, on her Last day at Duntroon Daycare, June 2015, age 4.5

Friday, June 19, 2015

We're all doomed...

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“JUST so you know, Mommy,” Mia announced tonight at dinner, completely out of the blue, “I am doomed.”

I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted an update on the kids, but just in case you’re wondering - -Mia is still only 4 years old.  (Going on 17, of course.)

Before I got the courage to ask my 4 year old why she was “doomed” and what on earth she was “doomed” for, she jumped in with a question,

“Mommy…” she pondered out loud, “What does DOOMED mean?”

Breathing a sigh of relief I explained it as something really bad that inevitably happens beyond your control.  She seemed quite spooked by the definition.

“Oh…” she said very seriously.  “I don’t think I’m doomed then. “

then a pause and (I swear to you) a mischevious look to the side,

“…But TOBY is.”

NO reaction.

(Phew)

“Toby?” Mia attempted to catch his attention as he quietly ate his supper, IGNORING her antics, “Toby!  I SAID you are DOOMED!”

He continued to ignore her, eating his pasta in mock-sister-immune-bliss.

“Oh, FINE” she said going back to her dinner, “Toby you’re JUST DOOMED.” She concluded for the last and final time.

I could tell by his sideways glance that the bait was hooked,

“No, Mia,” he said calmly between bites, “I am NOT DOOMED.”

“YES YOU ARE, TOBY YOU ARE DOOMED!”

It was as he was about to throw his milk at her that I decided it was time to step in.  I pointed out the extremely obvious fact that Mia was not using nice words, that (despite this) Toby should still not throw his milk at her and that he was, in fact, NOT doomed, despite his sister’s crazy prophecies.

After a few minute all was right again in our world.  We finished dinner and loaded into the car on our way to the end of school BBQ.   As we were driving along Toby realized that one of his fingernails was crooked.

(For real.  This kid notices EVERYTHING.  He takes life VERY seriously.)

“Mommy.” He said with equal parts concern and curiosity, “I think one of my fingernails is coming in crooked.”

“Uh, huh” was about all the sympathy I could muster...

“Well…I guess this just means I’m going to have crooked teeth AND crooked nails.” said a sad voice from the back.

Meanwhile, another much more cheerful voice joined in on the conversation,

“Well ALL of MY nails are STRAIGHT and all of MY teeth are straight.  So there you go, Toby.  YOU. ARE. DOOMED.”

I’m not going to sugar coat the rest of the drive to the school BBQ.  It wasn’t pleasant and doesn’t represent any of my more stellar parenting moments.  But we, as parents, must take triumph in the small things, if only for self-preservation.

Mia, as it turns out, has a great knack for vocabulary.  She MAY turn out to be a cruel, un-empathetic, callous individual who triumphs in art of torturing others, but she’s a quick learner of new words.  And we have to take our small victories where we can get them.  Otherwise -- you got it -- WE.  ARE. DOOMED.